Netflix's TLS support is an extremely limited hack that suits their performance needs. It does not support initial session negotiation or rekeying. They do the former in userspace before handing off a symmetric key to the kernel, and drop connections in the latter case, relying on the client to reconnect. There's no chance it will be merged to FreeBSD; it's not a general solution.

As long as we're talking about TLS and IPSec, though, I'd point to Wireguard as maybe something viable for kernel use.