So I should be able to build a fracking site next to your apartment building then, since it's "land I own".

Unless you are an anarcho-pacifist, you have accepted that there are some legitimate uses of violence, so just because they don't think you should be able to frack next door to them doesn't mean that they don't think violence is involved in keeping you from fracking next door to them.

That sounds like more of a zoning issue. You can't just build an apartment somewhere because you own the land.

That's exactly what the parent was saying, just differently.

When you violate zoning they don't ask nicely you know.