> I’m not saying they’re happy with it, but prefer it over self improvement?

You can want something yet fail to achieve it, that's fairly obvious, no? Compare: fat people who want to be not-fat.

Of course, the blatant counter-argument would be that those just don't want it enough; this entire train of thought seems rather damning to me.

You can, but I see no indication of such a desire here.

They are talking about the workplace in particular. They are saying, why risk your job being social with women at work when you can be social elsewhere.

Why risk your job being social with anyone at work? Why ever do anything other than exactly what your job requires?

I'm saying, if your social skills are so bad that you're risking your job by being social with women at work, you should make fixing that a top priority.

Okay, but if my social skills are that bad then I certainly wouldn't try fixing them at work.

Also, in response to your first sentence, it's about relative risk.