Re:Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (2012)
by spyckie2 on Monday May 07, 2018 @11:37PM
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I guess my definition of value is purely based on effort/reward. Especially as someone in their 30s friends come and go a lot, they are not hard to pick up but are very hard to keep, and other things like building a stable environment for myself takes priority. Many of my really good friends moved away, or settled down and married and kids.
Not bitter about it but just stating the fact that lasting friendships aren't the best investment because of how volatile modern society can be.
I think such a utilitarian view is a post-hoc rationalization rather than a useful way to look at it. But even if we follow this line of thought, it is not clear that family, for example is of such high value that it has to be detrimental to everything else. It seems more to me that family benefited from the time freed up by not having friendly relationships, but whether people derive more value from family than they did in the past is very debateable. Spending more time with it is not proof that it has higher value - people will always do something in lack of alternatives.