Re:Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (2012)
by objplant on Monday May 07, 2018 @04:38AM
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I would suggest not to join a hobby, interest group etc. with an agenda of making friends. I think such a plan might create some unnecessary mental pressure on one's behaviour. On the other hand if you join a group with a topic that really interests you, chances are you'll be sorrounded with at least some like-minded people. And then, if you casually fall into a conversation with someone, then you grab the opportunity for making an acquaintance. And that person might some day turn into a friend.
Re:Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (2012)
by oceanman888 on Monday May 07, 2018 @03:22AM
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Before that certain age, we do not "try" to make friends. We live with them physically. Turns out human are not that suited to "look for friends" when they actually need them.
Some seem to reiterate the importance of time investment into the search for new friends. I agree with this. The more you put yourself out there, the odds would hopefully be more in your favour. However, the guarantee of the outcome isn't there. One could spend hours, days, months joining various hobby and interest groups with such an agenda and still end up with nothing.
It's almost like after a certain age, new friendships become more incentivised. The friendship itself only exists because it can be rationalised with mutual benefits.