Re:The Forever Nomad
by artur_makly on Monday April 30, 2018 @10:14PM
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her story coincidentally matches mine ~70%.
nice to know from time to time that we are not soooo isolated. UsSR > NYC > Buenos Aires > Bariloche (2019!!) Nomadic living is in our DNA. listen to it. it will bring you unfathomable gifts and next-gen ideas that will make this world a better place. bon voyage
Re:The Forever Nomad
by Paul_S on Tuesday May 01, 2018 @09:12PM
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I don't think it's possible to build a complete life at her age. Even at 30 I already felt that every new move was me giving up on something. You can't "catch-up" on life not lived together. Now I wouldn't even consider moving unless a nuclear bomb exploded next door. I need friendships and the truth is they take years of tending.
Re:The Forever Nomad
by mercer on Wednesday May 02, 2018 @01:32AM
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On the one hand I agree, and it's been one of the few reasons I've tried (with moderate success) to not be too nomadic.
But at the same time I think friendship is a varied and complex enough thing that thankfully it's not entirely about time/tending, and if the nomadism doesn't mask an underlying problem, it doesn't preclude having a 'complete' life.
Some of my best friendships were almost clear from the beginning, and required little 'tending'. Others I have tended diligently only to realize that while they were good, and the tending helped, they'd never be as strong as the former. Sometimes losing them didn't affect me much.
Some of my friendships even seem to have suffered from 'over-tending', a bit like how moving in with a friend can ruin things.
All that said, you're probably more right than not. Just saying :).
Re:The Forever Nomad
by falcor84 on Monday April 30, 2018 @09:57PM
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I suppose I'm just very tired and accidentally read the title as "The Forever Monad" and got excited for a second. It took me a short while to figure out how wrong I was.
But at the same time I think friendship is a varied and complex enough thing that thankfully it's not entirely about time/tending, and if the nomadism doesn't mask an underlying problem, it doesn't preclude having a 'complete' life.
Some of my best friendships were almost clear from the beginning, and required little 'tending'. Others I have tended diligently only to realize that while they were good, and the tending helped, they'd never be as strong as the former. Sometimes losing them didn't affect me much.
Some of my friendships even seem to have suffered from 'over-tending', a bit like how moving in with a friend can ruin things.
All that said, you're probably more right than not. Just saying :).
Anyway, I'd appreciate reading suggestions about the theory behind the "forever" function for monads (https://www.haskell.org/hoogle/?hoogle=forever).