I've had the exact same experience, but the other side of the coin was getting bullied and beat up because I was more interested in electronics and programming my Vic-20 then other 'conventional' interests for young boys (and being quite small physically at the time).

Programming is a form of expression for me, and I derive great satisfaction from solving and creating software which truly helps the users I work for. On the the other hand my lack of detachment from 'myself' and 'my work' also can cause some unnecessary pain at times, but it's a work in progress.

If anyone has achieved the balance I seek, I'd be glad to hear their story!