Re:It all made sense when we found out we were autistic
by mercer on Tuesday March 27, 2018 @09:40AM
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Sadly I've found that post-diagnosis, at least when it comes to something that can be 'hidden' pretty well, like Aspergers, even just mentioning the diagnosis often makes things worse (especially around said assholes).
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> In this thread, there an insightful comment that reads: it's like realizing that you are short... after decades of being told that the only reason you can't reach as high as most people is because you are lazy.
> When you said "people often use it as an excuse to not work towards improving themselves", that is exactly what the author of the comment meant by "being told [that they're] lazy". No matter how much a short person "work[s] towards improving themselves", they will not get taller. They instead find ways to work around the issue, like carrying stepladders with them.
Or summarized more concisely: One needs a diagnosis because other people are simply a##holes.