Re:The Key to Good Luck Is an Open Mind
by RangerScience on Tuesday March 27, 2018 @04:00AM
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This is totally reasonable. I feel like "Step One: Eye Contact" was a very, very good starting point on a journey for me.
You may find adhering to it confidence-building in situ long enough to develop more personalized (to you) skills.
But in certain situations like waiting in line at starbucks, people nearby don't usually make eye contact. It's a bit too close and uncomfortable to even begin making eye contact unless they're at least 5-8 peoples away. People seem to glance away more often in close proximity, and it's harder to look back (just my experience when I try to make eye contact with someone). And if you find them mindlessly on their phone or staring at nothing in particular, it doesn't hurt to start a conversation.
It's really important that you shouldn't have to look like you're trying to start a conversation. It should just flow and be effortless. Having said that, I have the deepest respect for people who have gone out of their way to talk to strangers and getting rejected. I always thought it was stupid, but once you have seen it in person, it's a different story. They know they have a small chance, but they play their cards anyway. Most people don't have the confidence to do this, like me.