> With a professional saying that they have a condition that's beyond their control, and labeling it for them, it helps them say "I'm different, but it's not my fault."

I consider the mistake rather in the assumption that there is free will. If you simply get free of the dogma that there is free will, something like "fault" simply does not even make sense to formulate anymore. EDIT: And you surely already found out beforehand on your own that you are different.