why would I even have that question if my entire community has never called that in to question in the first place?
To understand and see how communities that aren't yours act, and interact with vernacular versus shuttering one's self behind the assumption that because your group sees x in a certain way, other groups must by default see it similarly.
Googling "Is dude gender neutral?".... why would I even have that question if my entire community has never called that in to question in the first place?