Absolutely, you're right. But as a singular entity, I'm a human, and an AI is "other". I know I perform better in 2 cases, and AI statistically perform better in 100 others, but I believe I'm more special than statistics in those 100 other cases, so I only care about the cases where I could have made a saving difference.

I guess I'm suggesting there's bound to be a (n irrational) paradox where everyone wants other drivers to be replaced by AI, so they themselves can drive safely and avoid the edge case accidents.

I’m looking forward to having a self driving car. You value control so much that having amortized years of your life back isn’t worth it? How many hours of your life have you and will you spend driving when you could have been surfing the web, talking to loved ones, reading, eating or literally anything else?

The problem is not self driving cars but the unsafe driving cars, you know the move fast and brake things, self driving AI is not ready yet, when it will be ready and safe I will accept them, I wish we get safety at the level that NASA or airplanes not the safety we have in web apps and regular software.

...but near term "If my child died in a situation where I know without a doubt an AI caused the accident, it would matter a hell of a lot to me."

There are going to be a lot of lawsuits that will sort out the legal frameworks after the first wave of failures by automated conveyances....