The original post that I replied to said but what doesn't make sense to me is that you loose all future productivity and value that these people create.
Most of my cousins -- all female - stayed in my home town because it really helps having their parents around so they can work and not have to worry about childcare because they have their parents.
When I was growing up, my grandfather or aunts would come pick me up if I was sick, take me to doctors appointments, etc. My dad worked in a factory and it was harder for him to get off of work in the spur of the moment and my mom could not just take time off in the middle of the day as a teacher.
I've been married for a little while and have a teenage step son. We never really had extended family that lived around. We had to arrange our lifestyles to give us the maximum flexibility. My wife got a job that would allow here to be on the school system schedule and I have a flexible job that allows me to me work from home, work odd hours if I need to, etc.
We also are fortunate enough to have teenage sons. When we really just can't get to our son in time to pick him up or take him somewhere we just tell him to order an Uber. I wouldn't do that if I had a daughter.
I do see people in similar situations to ours who aren't so fortunate, when they need to take time off of work to deal with family issues, they have to use vacation or sick time or even worse take unpaid time off. If they had their parents around and healthy, it would make their life easier.
I think the trap here is that productivity entails the exchange of hard currency. In some societies activities like childcare, household work, shopping, gardening, etc. are uncompensated labor often done by seniors. Historically, they have also been conduits for preserving knowledge and educating new generations. But things are changing. Seniors' productivity as a cohort today will probably diminish with increasing lifespans, decreasing healthspans, and being a larger proportion of society than has historically been the case.
They can do well as a two income family without having to choose between a demanding to career and taking care of their kids because a lot of them have their parents close by to help.
Even when the wife is pregnant, the husband can still chase after his career without missing a beat because he can count on either his mom or mother in law to move in and help.
They say that the costs are barely offset by cigarette tax revenue but that doesn't take into account all future tax revenue that would be generated by letting these people live.