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Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by DoreenMichele on Friday February 16, 2018 @02:09PM (#16394963)
The problem runs deeper than that. I'm a woman and have participated on HN for about 8.5 years. HN is one of the most civilized environments I have participated in. I still have men politely email me to essentially chat me up and otherwise don't want to engage me at all.

I recently offered to let someone email me to discuss their issue. They were all enthused. We never discussed their issue. They basically wanted to know when I might come visit their country. I cut them off and let them know they could write back if they had any actual questions about [issue]. I never heard back.

There is a very short list of men who will talk to me like a human being. But about 99% of men have only one reason they would ever talk to me and that reason is to treat me like a talking fleshlight.

It's very frustrating and I'm getting to the point of starting to be pretty mad about the whole thing. Then when I comment on my gender being a factor contributing to my intractable poverty, inevitably someone is a jerk about that and acts like I am crazy.

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by YetAnotherNick on Friday February 16, 2018 @04:57PM (#16396836)
> about 99% of men have only one reason

You lost me on this.

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by Can_Not on Monday February 19, 2018 @10:18AM (#16413357)
There is a loud minority of men who seek out opportunities and jump at any opportunity to sexually harass a woman. It's not uncommon that women often encounter these males in ridiculous volumns. Some women actually get such a volumn of sexist males that it's difficult to form regular relationships with members of the male community who are not overtly sexist. Please don't let this somewhat offensive exaggeration make you dismiss the daily struggles women can have with never ending systematic sexism.