This is tone deaf. You'd like it if women as large as linebackers for the NFL (to illustrate the natural size and strength difference) 'joked' they were going to take you into the parking lot and rape you? Or when one gets really drunk and gets pissed that you're not going to sleep with her and starts to strangle you?

I really hope for your sake that your self esteem isn't that poor, you deserve to be treated with respect and not have to fear for your life when going about daily business.

Most men would welcome sexual advances from people they were sexually interested in. They would not from those they are not, and they would very much not appreciate the escalations to physical violence by larger, stronger people who they reject when they are not interested.

As a male I'm pretty sure this is an illusion. Go to Pattaya Thailand and walk down the infamous Soi 6 every day for a week. I've been there, done that. Tell me how many nights you will last until you don't want to go there anymore.

I understand you, it certainly feels good in your imagination but once you get hit on every day it becomes annoying. E.g. it is extremely annoying if you just want to walk through Soi 6 to reach the beach and every yard another woman walks up to you and tries to grab your hand or get hold of you.

It's even worse if you are trying to get some work done. Imagine that every time you want to grab a coffee while you are still thinking about a problem, some lady walks up and starts a chat "Hey honey, how is it going?"

Or we could be civilized and professional towards our colleagues. Why is that too much to ask?

Well yeah, sure... that parts fun. It's a matter of having to worry about what happens if you politely decline.

Sounds like you're uniquely unqualified to comment on this issue then.

Really? You'd welcome this?

> “He was about six foot three, and he told me I was not going to leave,” Holmes recalled. “He put his hand around my neck and tried to choke me.”

Or this?

> “He gets close to my face and says, ‘You’re so fucking dumb, and you don’t know shit. The only thing you’re good for is being taken out to the back parking lot and being raped.’”

(These are direct quotes from the article, by the way.)

are you kink shaming me?

You said "most men", not "I".

If you can cite stats indicating "most men" like to be choked and threatened with sexual violence, feel free.