"just get a cheap dedicated server "

what does one consider to be "cheap" for a dedicated server these days?

Scaleway virtual private servers go for 3 euros monthly (US$ 3.68).

They asked for dedicated servers explicitly to avoid VPSs.

Kimsufi 7eur

10 euros.

> but yeah vast majority of hosting providers will be far more trustworthy than any residential ISP.

[citation needed]

1) Incentives, residential ISPs obviously have a far bigger incentive to try and monetize your traffic.

2) No lock-in for hosting products, way more competitive hosting market, hosting companies have incentive to provide better service than residential ISPs.

3) Residential ISPs tend to have a far bigger attack surface and less trained staff. I hacked many of the worlds biggest ISPs and hosting companies, the ISPs were always running Solaris from a decade ago.

One reason is that you and your ISP are almost certainly under the same jurisdiction. So your ISP is more likely subject to coercion by your government, compared with VPS providers in other jurisdictions. Further, you can choose VPS providers in jurisdictions where such coercion will not likely be successful.