Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ...
by DoreenMichele on Tuesday February 06, 2018 @06:04PM
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I don't think so. I do think some social environments are particularly bad about things like that. But it is really rare for people to be genuinely respectful.
A lot of genuinely nice people just never have it come back to them. They just keep getting taken advantage of. Everyone expects them to be "nice" in the face of terrible behavior. If they get fed up with it, they get accused of being in the wrong.
This seems to be tied to that thing I hate so much: pecking order. Apologizing doesn't signal you are decent, honorable etc. It signals you are low man on the totem pole. And it opens a door on horrible social crap. Good luck closing it once it is open. Best to just not open it.
A lot of genuinely nice people just never have it come back to them. They just keep getting taken advantage of. Everyone expects them to be "nice" in the face of terrible behavior. If they get fed up with it, they get accused of being in the wrong.
This seems to be tied to that thing I hate so much: pecking order. Apologizing doesn't signal you are decent, honorable etc. It signals you are low man on the totem pole. And it opens a door on horrible social crap. Good luck closing it once it is open. Best to just not open it.