People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be less self-compassionate

Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by Red_Tarsius on Tuesday February 06, 2018 @04:55PM (#16320250)

Off topic question. A few years ago I started a heated, short-lived debate on an online forum. Soon after, however, I realized my arguments were flawed. Is it creepy to send an apology to a few users after such a long time? I don't know them in real life, but I regret my rushed judgment to this day. I would like my online behaviour to be consistent with my real-life behaviour regardless of circumstances.

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Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by tedsanders on Tuesday February 06, 2018 @05:04PM (#16320341)

I wouldn't find it creepy at all, though obviously depends on the exact context. I admire people who change their minds and who follow up to tie off loose threads. Others might feel differently, but I'd encourage you to reach out if you're considering it. Generally I think reaching out to others is worthwhile. And just doing it usually takes less time than pondering whether you should do it or not.

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Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by davesque on Tuesday February 06, 2018 @10:23PM (#16322024)

Nah. In general, I wouldn't call that kinda thing creepy. It seems like you should be able to state that you retract what you said after further consideration.

However, I guess it would really depend on the situation. I suppose it is possible to dream up some scenario in which apologizing would come off as creepy. For example, if you ran into some girl or guy you knew from high school and decided to apologize for some mundane thing you did that no one would ever remember and, thereby, let on that you've been thinking of them for years despite never having had any actual contact. Not saying your situation was anything like that. Just a hypothetical.

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Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by bringtheaction on Tuesday February 06, 2018 @05:26PM (#16320525)

Can't you say so in the thread then? That way people coming to the discussion in the future will see your admission of being wrong.

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Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by annywhey on Tuesday February 06, 2018 @05:31PM (#16320556)

On the one hand, it's not worth it if you have become a traumatising figure(e.g. bad breakup) - an apology can't fix that.

On the other, a heated online argument, you're anonymous and only remembered as one more incident of low level aggression. So sending any kind word is probably good overall.

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Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by freedom7775 on Tuesday February 06, 2018 @04:57PM (#16320274)

Creepy? No.

Just don't grave dig if you decide to apologize.

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