Bigotry isn't really about words or drawing lines around sex, gender, or race. It's about the institutions that oppress people of color, LGBT people, and women. That's why saying "kill all men" as an expression of frustration isn't the same as, "women are biologically worse engineers than men". The US has no history of male genocide and it's silly to even consider. The US does have a history of curbing the rights of women though, and if people like James Damore have their way we'll start walking back down the path where we curtail the rights, freedoms, and opportunities of women and justify it using "biology".

There is no correlating behavior here. If feminists win out, women will pay the same for health care as men do, we'll have as many women working in STEM as we have men, women will be paid the same money for the same work. You can't equate that with sexism. You can't say that if we want to advocate for equal rights for women in the workplace that we have to tolerate people advocating against equal rights for women in the workplace. It's deeply and clearly wrong. It's like if I want to say "vaccines don't cause autism" we have to give equal air time to people who think they do. No, we don't. They're wrong.

That's why these things aren't the same. I would guess you'll probably just say (again), "people who say 'kill all men' are expressing hate against men, that's misandry and it's bigoted", but please at least consider what I've written now to... idk 8 people in this thread. The worst thing that happens is you come to the conclusion I'm just spending a lot of time ineffectively trolling and burning my karma. But I'm hoping you'll start to consider that the issue is much more complicated.