Re:Why American men are getting less marriageable
by mpweiher on Friday January 26, 2018 @11:38AM
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Apologies, but this is flashing "rationalization" in big bright letters. "I would so much like to, but circumstances outside my control just make it impossible".
> for men, marriage lightens the burden
No, it absolutely does not. You are now the sole breadwinner for an entire family.
See A letter to … my wife, who won’t get a job while I work myself to death:
Huh? How backward is that? First, the vast majority of people has jobs, not careers. Second, you have a job in order to live, you don't live in order to have a job. A job is generally something you don't really want to do, otherwise people wouldn't give you money to do it.
> Why would I want to support a man both economically and practically?
This is the truth: you don't. And the vast majority of women don't. Not because you can't, but because you don't want to. Really, really, really don't want to. Which is why the rationalizations come so thick and heavy. Anyway, the reason I am pretty confident that it is not because they can't is that every study shows that the higher the income, the less women want to support a man, despite the fact that with higher income it obviously becomes factually easier.
And in fact, when it comes to to senior dating, it becomes even more extreme. Wealthy widows with no financial concerns and no housework to speak of absolutely and adamantly refuse to consider men who have less than they. And of course, they have a million rationalizations as to why that's just not possible.
Ahh, but of course it is the men that have to change. And change first. Should have guessed. And of course you can't actually tell if a particular man is willing to take on more house-work and child-rearing before your "consider" him, so you have set up a nice impossible barrier. "There's just nothing I can do".
> for men, marriage lightens the burden
No, it absolutely does not. You are now the sole breadwinner for an entire family.
See A letter to … my wife, who won’t get a job while I work myself to death:
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jul/02/a-lette...
> leaving more time and energy for career.
Huh? How backward is that? First, the vast majority of people has jobs, not careers. Second, you have a job in order to live, you don't live in order to have a job. A job is generally something you don't really want to do, otherwise people wouldn't give you money to do it.
> Why would I want to support a man both economically and practically?
This is the truth: you don't. And the vast majority of women don't. Not because you can't, but because you don't want to. Really, really, really don't want to. Which is why the rationalizations come so thick and heavy. Anyway, the reason I am pretty confident that it is not because they can't is that every study shows that the higher the income, the less women want to support a man, despite the fact that with higher income it obviously becomes factually easier.
And in fact, when it comes to to senior dating, it becomes even more extreme. Wealthy widows with no financial concerns and no housework to speak of absolutely and adamantly refuse to consider men who have less than they. And of course, they have a million rationalizations as to why that's just not possible.
http://www.bettinaarndt.com.au/wp-content/uploads/Broke-Olde...
> continue to erase traditional gender roles.
You go right ahead! Start erasing!
> If most of the men out there were ready...
Ahh, but of course it is the men that have to change. And change first. Should have guessed. And of course you can't actually tell if a particular man is willing to take on more house-work and child-rearing before your "consider" him, so you have set up a nice impossible barrier. "There's just nothing I can do".