I think a sizable portion of the diversity arguments are brouhaha caused by people who don't speak specifically and clearly.

I'm not always good at it myself. But when "say what you mean, and mean what you say" isn't at least someones goal for their choice of phrasing, then they're probably just going to make things worse.

Also, people don't have an obligation to instantly re-cast everything they hear into the best possible argument for a poorly made point. You can make a good point poorly. We should stop blaming the reader for not bending over backwards to take it the way the writer wanted. Or, maybe, at least stop calling them autistic.