Re:Why American men are getting less marriageable
by ajuc on Friday January 26, 2018 @08:08AM
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> That means that for men, marriage lightens the burden of (for lack of a better term) managing life, leaving more time and energy for career.
Not my experience. It's easier to have a career, hobbies, and energy if you're single, than if you're in a "modern" marriage.
I'd argue it's easier even compared to "oldfashioned" marriage, but for different reasons, but that's just a guess.
People still get married, because love, and kids, and social expectations, and tax cuts ;), but in my experience being alone requires the least effort.
> The solution, in my opinion, would be to continue to erase traditional gender roles. If most of the men out there were ready to take on the homemaker role enthusiastically, I would be far more willing to consider them as partners even if they make a fraction of what I do.
Why would you want to erase them? These roles developed and exist for a reason. Obviously the alternative roles should be promoted as viable and respectable choices, but the existing roles exist because for most people it's a good fit.
I've met women that are quite angry at society for making them feel inadequate because they just want to be housewives.
> If most of the men out there were ready to take on the homemaker role enthusiastically, I would be far more willing to consider them as partners even if they make a fraction of what I do.
Why do you want most? Isn't it sufficient if some do? You won't marry all of them :)
Not my experience. It's easier to have a career, hobbies, and energy if you're single, than if you're in a "modern" marriage. I'd argue it's easier even compared to "oldfashioned" marriage, but for different reasons, but that's just a guess.
People still get married, because love, and kids, and social expectations, and tax cuts ;), but in my experience being alone requires the least effort.
> The solution, in my opinion, would be to continue to erase traditional gender roles. If most of the men out there were ready to take on the homemaker role enthusiastically, I would be far more willing to consider them as partners even if they make a fraction of what I do.
Why would you want to erase them? These roles developed and exist for a reason. Obviously the alternative roles should be promoted as viable and respectable choices, but the existing roles exist because for most people it's a good fit.
I've met women that are quite angry at society for making them feel inadequate because they just want to be housewives.
> If most of the men out there were ready to take on the homemaker role enthusiastically, I would be far more willing to consider them as partners even if they make a fraction of what I do.
Why do you want most? Isn't it sufficient if some do? You won't marry all of them :)