Re:Mothers who regret having children are speaking out
by seanmcdirmid on Friday January 12, 2018 @12:08PM
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We went to all the classes and read all the books. And no, we weren’t prepared, had way too many misconceptions about baby behavior, and this is above all babies being different.
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Re:Mothers who regret having children are speaking out
by taeric on Friday January 12, 2018 @01:06PM
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To strengthen your point. This is ultimately my problem with any statistically based thing. If parenthood was deterministic, then it would be easy.
So, is it possible that some folks are "fully prepared" for parenthood? Almost certainly. I'd expect that the numbers work out such that people like this do exist. Parents that were fully ready for the children they got.
However, this is like expecting someone can know exactly how to play poker, following the rules on when to bet and when not to, and then getting shocked to see that you still don't win every game. Statistically, you will lose games. Best you can do is have the game setup so that the losses are small and the wins are leveraged.