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Re:Silicon Valley's Secretive, Orgiastic Side by sleepyandlazy on Tuesday January 02, 2018 @04:27PM (#16055853)
The old-fashioned method you are suggesting requires much more effort than Silicon Valley parties that are currently being thrown. Changing who you are as a person is tough, and why do that when there are easier options. In places like SV and Seattle where there is an imbalance between men/women, you could follow these instructions perfectly but you would still be playing with bad odds.

There was recently an article about a prostitution ring busted in Seattle involving Amazon/Microsoft employees, which just shows these type of situations are inevitable in male-dominated industries, and wealth just exasperates the issue.

The old-fashioned method is one of those win-win situations, but if you're willing to let go of being morally correct, it certainly does not hold up against what is currently going on.

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Re:Silicon Valley's Secretive, Orgiastic Side by guacamoleSoda on Tuesday January 02, 2018 @05:03PM (#16056196)
Unfortunately, I agree. I've had significantly more trouble dating in Silicon Valley than anywhere else I've lived. In fact, that's why I'm moving to NYC. Using dating apps as evidence:

On the east coast:

- I get 5x as many matches.

- Most of my matches respond to my openers.

- My matches are significantly higher quality.

- My matches suggest meeting up for dates.

- My matches compliment me.

- My matches never unmatch me.

The whole silicon valley gender skew seems like a bad situation for everyone involved. But I'm not sure what can be done about.

I suggested the old-fashioned method because it does no harm. My only issues with the orgies described in the article is there seems to be quite a bit of consent-through-manipulation.

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Re:Silicon Valley's Secretive, Orgiastic Side by puzzle on Tuesday January 02, 2018 @05:31PM (#16056467)
NYC is probably the optimal case, since it's been known for years that it's one of the few places where there are more single women than single men. In some areas, many more single women. In other words, it skews the exact opposite way from SV.
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Re:Silicon Valley's Secretive, Orgiastic Side by obscurantist on Tuesday January 02, 2018 @04:34PM (#16055930)
There is a massive, massive asymmetry between men and women when it comes to sex or romance that exist even when you're not in an area with a skewed gender ratio.
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