Even with all the caveats in the world (that different means neither better nor worse, that this doesn’t make hiring or salary discrimination ok, etc etc), you’re likely to get in trouble because of it.
Yes. Women and men are differently capable.
However, there are many ways in which we traditionally believed them to be differently capable that were actually that way due to discrimination and injustice.
So, people will be rightly annoyed when someone tries to downplay the effects of systemic injustice.
When we have fixed our systems to be more just and inclusive, only then can we begin to talk about inherent difference.
Until then, it is not urgent.
Justice first.
This is not something that ever finishes.
I think we have to allow both to happen side by side, constantly struggling to balance them as best we can.
In general, I'm more interested in the underlying dynamics, as well as the processes we use to determine what is morally acceptable or not. I think that looking at the more complex issues and at the ways in which the different viewpoints evolve over time shines more light on these important fundamental aspects.