Whoosh, as it were. The point is that when you say that, it is what some other people hear. And that forcing disadvantaged demographics to read your mind to tell whether you're simply naive or a sexist jerk is hurting all of us. There are principles at work here beyond "sacrificing the quality of education".

The bottom line is that you aren't being nearly as welcoming as you think you are.

The interviewer will never know your entire backstory and needs to make a decision relatively quickly. If I would start to be overly empathetic or sensible, I would arguably start making biased and bad decisions based on personal gut feelings. That's what I need to avoid, not encourage.