> So I am wondering what led to the conclusion that this article blames stuff on the programmer?

I'm seeing the same problem over on Reddit [0], I think that the problem is that the article buries the lede.

The entire first section is consistent with "blaming the programmer", and the title of the next section is "Why are some programmers such jerks?". That's probably where a lot of people just stopped.

[0] https://www.reddit.com/r/programming/comments/7gpt3n/how_you...

The stuff I addressed in my comment is the backdrop of this article, and I understand it as being the implicit expectations of the author. I question the validity of those expectations - I believe they're unreasonable and unfair to the programmers.