Re:Ask HN: My brother is addicted to alcohol. How do I help ...
by jacquesm on Friday August 06, 2010 @02:59PM
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> So you are essentially shouldering some/all of the responsibility for the brother's alcoholism upon the OP. That's a big burden to carry, and potentially dangerous + damaging if it is not true.
No, I'm asking if he thinks that may be the case.
People do the weirdest things to get the attention of others, including getting in to trouble.
> I would be sad if the OP gave up his startup and moved home for this. Many people just self-destruct and even if the alcoholic brother is missing his distant brother that doesn't make it wrong for distant brother to live abroad.
It's not your life, it's his so there is noting for you to be sad about, whichever decision he makes, and whatever the outcome.
As for the linguistics, I'm not an English native speaker/writer but I though that it was pretty clear that I did not intend to suggest that he is at fault for his brothers drinking, that's a ridiculous suggestion to begin with. Everybody is responsible for their own lives.
No, I'm asking if he thinks that may be the case.
People do the weirdest things to get the attention of others, including getting in to trouble.
> I would be sad if the OP gave up his startup and moved home for this. Many people just self-destruct and even if the alcoholic brother is missing his distant brother that doesn't make it wrong for distant brother to live abroad.
It's not your life, it's his so there is noting for you to be sad about, whichever decision he makes, and whatever the outcome.
As for the linguistics, I'm not an English native speaker/writer but I though that it was pretty clear that I did not intend to suggest that he is at fault for his brothers drinking, that's a ridiculous suggestion to begin with. Everybody is responsible for their own lives.