Here is another perspective which you may find equally dumb:
https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/
Note that this comic is coming from a totally female perspective (scary!) but it really applies either way. For instance, in my marriage I am the one who feels like the chore-czar, while my wife is the one who tends to feel like the planning-czar. If we both realize this and try to meet in the middle it makes things go a lot more smoothly.
http://www.owensworld.com/jokes/men-women/boyfriend-50-upgra...
I prefer humor, but it's obviously not for everybody. Also theres a slightly different version of the one I posted above on this page, but I couldn't find a directly corresponding one for women's version. If you do please share- I'd like to forward it to my wife.
specifically, #39:
http://showcase.netins.net/web/tash/rules/rules.html