I wonder if it's due to how open source software is sometimes marketed to users? If you have a professional-looking website saying it's easy to use and better than the rest, and people try it out and it's not completely wonderful, they're going to complain, because it didn't meet expectations.

Perhaps deliberately modest marketing would work better at attracting the right kind of users?

This is an important distinction to make.

If those users are mad because you won't do free work for them they are entitled jerks.

If those users are mad because your marketing made promises it doesn't keep and they wasted their time learning/installing/integrating your project based on lies, you are the jerk.

Some open source projects are aware of the number of users but focus on getting contributors, so that they can make the product better. They are sharing the workload of solving a common problem so others can stand on their shoulders.

Some focus on user numbers, because then they can be famous, or they have a connected business that will make more money.

These are groups that will work very differently and respond to users differently. They have simply chosen similar software licenses.

I’m sure I know the sort you’re talking about, but there’s another quarter being heard from here too.

There isn’t space for an infinite number of libraries in a niche. So if you show up you are occupying space that someone else can’t. Sort of like if your friends throw a party and you decide to throw one on the same day. Kind of a dick move if you don’t have a really really good reason (like it’s your birthday).

Additionally is nearly impossible to sell a library now. It wasn’t always that way, but that’s the world we live in now, in large part because of FOSS. Writing it in-house or using FOSS are pretty much my only two options. So FOSS has to be some significant fraction of the quality of a commercial alternative because we can’t have those anymore. Without any attempt at sufficiency, FOSS effectively makes the world a worse place.

> Why do some users feel so entitled?

As a user, I have no longer a way of knowing whether an "open source" project's main developers are doing stuff in their free time or on company time. So, I don't see anything wrong with asking for features. Asking for features is how software evelves, whether closed source or open source. If you have a problem with it, put a disclaimer "unmaintained" in the README.md (because not wanting to tirage requests amounts to not maintaining the software).

I think the GP meant that some users feel so entitled that they are not even trying to ask nicely. The attitude.

He didn't discard the notion of non-paying users asking for features at all.

Edit: typo

I largely agree here. I usually get annoyed when people start demanding things though. There are a surprising amount of people that do this. That is where burn out comes from .