> the whole thing is a living standard compromise to save thousands on rent.

Actually I think you would find that almost universally, that's not the outlook of van dwellers.

> What would be exciting about going back to a guy's van?

I'm a heterosexual man, so nothing at all would be exciting for me.

But I'm willing to consider that others would find it exciting. And quite frankly, I can think of quite a few ladies I know who might.

You have not explored a viewpoint other than your own on this topic.