The difference is that the App Store Control Panel on the Mac allows the user to make the decision that updates should or should not be downloaded in advance of the decision to install the update.

https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT207251

With the Windows 10 update, Microsoft was actively using dark patterns to circumvent their user's wishes.

https://www.thurrott.com/windows/windows-10/67367/upgradegat...