Modern feminism isn't doing enough to break down gender roles, it instead bemoans them, and in doing so inadvertently reinforces them - we should be working harder to break down gender roles, instead of attacking the people who are just following the path society has informed them is the path they're supposed to take. Modern feminism also seems to mostly assume that only women are injured by these societal norms, which I believe is demonstrably untrue.

It's also harmful to ascribe to gender what we ought to ascribe to individuals not communicating adequately about their needs/wants/hopes, or just individuals being individuals.

It seems that, according to this line of thinking women take this 'emotional labor' upon themselves, innately, while men do not. That is, men have not asked women to do this -- women naturally do it.

Why, then, should the burden be placed upon the man to alleviate this self-infliction of the woman? Why shouldn't the woman try to approach this issue more like the man? Or perhaps they should meet halfway. Either way, why is it expected that it is an issue that men need to address and adapt and not the other way around?