Re:Should Your Spouse Be Your Best Friend?
by rayiner on Sunday October 29, 2017 @01:32AM
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Viewing a spouse in terms of a friendship is not helpful in my opinion. Marriage is sui generis. It is, especially if you have kids, an economic and financial partnership. I think my wife is funny and I like spending time with her, but what really lets me sleep deeply at night is that she’s highly capable and professionally successful. I could die tomorrow and my daughter would be well provided for. It’s not something I appreciated when I was young and had fanciful ideas about western love marriage, but is definitely something I appreciate now that I’m old.
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Re:Should Your Spouse Be Your Best Friend?
by emodendroket on Sunday October 29, 2017 @01:36AM
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Most marriages do not involve two equally-successful professionals, and at least in my case from a purely financial perspective marrying a foreign woman with no real contacts in the US besides me wasn't very advantageous (I should probably clarify that I met my wife abroad because it sounds like I'm talking about a mail-order bride). Nevertheless I think it was worth doing for the tremendously positive effect it's had on my happiness and well-being.
I guess if I had kids I'd have to think about a life insurance policy (I occasionally think about doing that just for my wife).
Well, apart from the US in most western countries you have a strong social safety net so you don't have to marry because of financial worries.
Actually it's sometimes shocking when you see some being better off unemployed while working people can't find an affordable place. But that's another story...