I hear you. I've been in the industry for less than 4 years. I love coding, but not the industry. Last spring i burned myself to the ground building a project with unreasonable deadlines. I was sleeping less than 4h a night and couldn't keep any food down. In the end, the project was replaced by a newer shinier library. It all felt for nothing. I left soon afterwards and have transitioned from office work to fulltime remote freelancing & consulting while I attempt to bootstrap a small company that will hopefully cover my living costs and allow me to help my family. I haven't left IT but I'm hopefully getting closer to an arrangement where i can keep coding without and have a healthy balance.