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Re:Unselfish People Are More Likely to Wind Up with Depression by ozmodiar on Wednesday October 04, 2017 @11:05AM (#15400979)
The article resonated with me. I find inequality very upsetting and can be prone to depression. I wouldn't say that the depression is caused by a lack of reciprocity in others. If anything I've found that almost everyone, even otherwise 'selfish' people, can be extremely generous if they view you as someone who does good by others. I'm also no fool if I know someone is trying to rip me off.

I do think the depression comes from thinking about someone's situation, thinking "wow, that would be really sad/stressful/aggravating" and then starting to feel those emotions myself quite strongly. I would also say this tendency in myself increased a lot after becoming a parent. Avoiding reading the news has helped considerably, although that's not a great solution.

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Re:Unselfish People Are More Likely to Wind Up with Depression by ams6110 on Wednesday October 04, 2017 @12:50PM (#15401836)
It's helpful to be realistic about the world. People should have equal opportunity but equal outcomes are impossible. People have different levels of intelligence and motivation, different interests, different values.
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Re:Unselfish People Are More Likely to Wind Up with Depression by ozmodiar on Wednesday October 04, 2017 @02:17PM (#15402823)
Oh I agree, and for the most part I'm using equality to mean equal opportunity, or perhaps equal outcome for equal personal investment. Not so much that everyone should have identical lives. Maybe a better way to put it is I don't want anyone getting a raw deal in life.
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