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Re:How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality by troupe on Thursday September 28, 2017 @01:45PM (#15359241)
We were looking for a new washer and dryer. Our friends moved and offered us their old units. I was amazed at how much stress this removed--not because of the monetary savings, but because it removed our need to make a decision about what to buy. I think that was the point of the article. The decision-making process is emotionally expensive and that is what she wanted as a gift.
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Re:How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality by saint_fiasco on Thursday September 28, 2017 @01:54PM (#15359342)
Dan Arielly calls this "the pain of paying". Supposedly the secret to good gift-giving is that you should get something that the other person wants but finds painful to acquire.

For example, some people feel guilty for buying luxury items when they "should" be saving or spending on their children, so luxury goods or gift cards make good presents for them. Some people have problem choosing among similar alternatives so gift cards are terrible for them.

In this case, it looks like they both find cleaning services painful, the wife because there are many alternatives and it's emotionally draining to choose and the husband because it's expensive and he feels like a sucker paying for it when he can clean the bathroom himself. It was mostly bad luck and misunderstandings.

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Re:How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality by troupe on Thursday September 28, 2017 @03:16PM (#15359940)
That is a very insightful approach to gift giving.
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Re:How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality by utexaspunk on Thursday September 28, 2017 @03:08PM (#15359885)
Maybe I'm weird, but I don't find figuring out which product to buy a painful or emotionally draining experience. I rather enjoy researching different models and features, comparing and contrasting. How hard is that?
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Re:How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality by scott_s on Thursday September 28, 2017 @03:34PM (#15360052)
Imagine you don't enjoy researching a household item. (Why? Maybe you'd rather do something else. Doesn't really matter.) Now it's harder. Either way, it's definitely effort, and you can only squeeze so much effort into a day.
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Re:How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality by troupe on Thursday September 28, 2017 @03:15PM (#15359935)
It is significantly easier when making decisions by yourself. With the washer/dryer example, there was a lot more going into it including how long we may end up staying at that house, etc. There wasn't anything that really stood out as being the "correct" choice, so not needing to decide was very welcome.
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