How Did Marriage Become a Mark of Privilege?

Re:How Did Marriage Become a Mark of Privilege? by Mz on Monday September 25, 2017 @04:51PM (#15334019)

Look, someone asked "Why would you work" and then made an assertion that paints alimony as some kind of cushy free ride for life. I am saying this is not true: Even if a woman gets alimony, she probably also needs to work.

Comments like yours are essentially twisting my intent to an extreme degree. I did not expect to have people pile on and act like I am some overentitled lazy bum for explaining some of my reasons why I also work, in addition to getting alimony. Geez.

Edit: It appears you are that someone. So, which is it? Alimony is a cushy free ride? Or not?

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Re:How Did Marriage Become a Mark of Privilege? by adekok on Monday September 25, 2017 @05:09PM (#15334173)

> Even if a woman gets alimony, she probably also needs to work.

... if she wants to maintain the same lifestyle. If she's willing to take on a lower standard of living, perhaps not.

> Comments like yours are essentially twisting my intent to an extreme degree.

That's just untrue.

> I did not expect to have people pile on and act like I am some overentitled lazy bum

I did no such thing.

> Edit: It appears you are that someone.

Nope. You're not reading my comments. I clearly said that alimony is deserved compensation.

I understand your frustration that people are taking a somewhat counter position. But the point here is to not blame you or to say you "deserve" to be poor.

The point is to have a discussion on responsibility. Why are people being compensated? How much should they be compensated? For how long should that be paid?

For me, if you're married for 2 years, and pay alimony for 50, that's abusive and wrong. Saying so shouldn't be interpreted as an attack on you personally.

Please learn to distinguish a discussion on the topic of alimony from a personal attack on you. There are absolutely not the same thing.

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