That seems a sad self-limitation. Stepping on egos can be fun, especially in VC and start-up circles, where there are so many overinflated ones. I mean, it's probably not good for your chances of getting funded or networking, but...
Come to think of it, I think I know why I'm bad at networking.
Or angry. Or even hungry.
It is amazing how easily we can move from a thinking being into a completely irrational animal.
> It turns out that at work, most people operate as either takers, matchers, or givers. Whereas takers strive to get as much as possible from others and matchers aim to trade evenly, givers are the rare breed of people who contribute to others without expecting anything in return.
I wonder how that's defined at work, considering intellectual knowledge work isn't something you can physically give, match or take.
And 'not-to-do' list is something that is meant for your memory. I would keep these lists in the mac dashboard (sticky pads). Since I did not know when I would need them, having them in front of the eyes was a constant reminder. Once they were sufficiently ingrained, they would go to a docs (out of the sticky pads).
I feel the need for a not-to-do list again.
Actually, I also had a when in doubt list (this was because I said 'yes' too often). It had a few points like - (1) does it help me get better at running a startup, (2) does it help me get healthier, and (3) do I have a reason why I am doing it...
Anyone else :-) When 'in-a-doubt' list...
* Don't step on someone's ego (people are very egoistic and I have or had a habit of cracking worst jokes, without an ounce of remorse)
* Don't get emotionally involved with takers (there are givers and takers in the world... it's so much better to give to givers)
* Don't make important decisions when tired (prevented me from sending emails when I was too tired and silly ones)
I have been a freelance developer and an entrepreneur for last few years. They might seem silly but did help me out become better at managing things. :-) Does anyone else wants to share theirs.