I know what you're saying, but that's why I listed all those example questions. I listed them to show there are various levels of culpability and various levels of evil.
Where you draw the line is a personal thing and I'm not qualified to suggest where you draw it on an individual level.
I'm not sure this logic would hold for Soviet genocides though (not that they were tried at Nuremberg), as I suspect a hint of hestitation from say NKWD commander would probably result in him being promptly sent to Gulag to die. During Stalin's rule, pretty much everybody was operating with a gun to their heads at all times.
As in, your potential death or suffering at the hands of your superiors is also not a credible defence for what you did.
That obviously makes a lot more sense in the context of war crimes and crimes against humanity though.