And people will accept it because we're pragmatic. And those who don't just need to grow up and start pleasing the AI.
A whole new industry will pop up from the ones training nets in the first place. Hey do this and that and our calculations will read you better, you'll get the results you want. We just suggest you don't talk about these things at all, don't shop at these stores, don't have this name or be associated with that demographic ...
https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2017-06-23/google-wi...
Though I'm guessing that they are only now okay giving up on email data because they have so many other sources of tracking your behavior.
I invite you to read (or preferably watch) your Ibsen: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/An_Enemy_of_the_People
Because, as you just demonstrated with your programming example: For HIM it's a glorified message board. Other people may use it in completely different ways and appreciate it for them.
I'm not the greatest facebook-fan either, but I think you're really overstating the control they have over people's lives here and at the same time understating the value it can provide to people. Unless of course all people using facebook are just damn idiots and don't know what they're getting themselves into!
EDIT: 'control over people's lives' might be better phrased as 'knowledge about their activities/preferences'