Not the parent, but I'm someone with quite a lot of social anxiety. I fall apart when I have to give presentations (working on this skill) or I'm in a high-pressure social setting. Everyone does to some degree, but for myself and others like me, it's an order of magnitude greater.

I can certainly work with a team and I can program at least as well as most of my peers, but interviews are difficult for me.

Would you like some unsolicited advice?

You could go find your nearest open-mic night and sing/play for the audience. You can read poetry or sing karaoke.

It's probably going to suck the first time you do this. However, keep doing it. Eventually, you will get more comfortable and confident. It takes lots of practice.

I did a lot of stage performances as a musician. I used to vomit before going on stage. Eventually, I got used to it. Eventually, I was able to interact with the crowd. Eventually, I got comfortable. This confidence helped with many other areas of my life. It did take work and pushing through the discomfort and fear. It was not easy.

This may work for you.

I found going to acting school a help. I doubt I could have mustered up the courage to do stuff in front of an audience back then, but being given a script to perform in front of a small group of other acting students was much easier.

A public speaking course may also help. Things like that get you used to working through discomfort while maintaining a level of concentration.