But for Postgres, you contact the developers. If your problems are costing you so much money why wouldn't you just hire a core developer on the Postgres team or hire EnterpriseDB on contract to work on your issues? They'll fix the bug, upstream the fix, and roll you updated packages you can push out to your servers. Not entirely different than working with Oracle, except you are working in the open source world.

Hints are bad. Next time you upgrade your database you may end up with worse performance due to other changes in the query planner. Once your data crosses a certain size threshold it may also start performing worse. They are unpredictable. You will never know when they could break. Using them is the wrong solution.