> The "not feeling loving" doesn't last real long when both sides are committed to doing good to the other.
This. This is the key that I think many people completely miss. Today it's so much about "me, me!" but happiness never comes when you put yourself first.
I had that right. I freely, gladly, joyfully waived that right. I didn't (and don't) want the right to "move away freely". I wanted (and want) to be permanently committed to her.
27 years later, and it was a really good call...
> The current legal form of marriage formalizes love in a contract that doesn't take into account the fact that love can disappears one day for no reason...
There's love, and there's "love". "Love" is a feeling. Love is action - it's what you do. There have been days when I didn't feel loving toward my wife. I continue to act in ways that do her good, though. The "not feeling loving" doesn't last real long when both sides are committed to doing good to the other.