I still remember being shushed by the kindergarten teacher when I played with a banana (I used it as a pistol and made shooting sounds). That game was fine with my dad at home (we're from a different culture). I remember a couple of other things like that. For instance in school, fights between boys were shut down quickly and there were no consequences - "it was no one's fault" and violence is evil while at home my dad told me that it is the fault of the one who started fighting and it is fine to protect oneself.

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