Oh yes no doubt j is very useful - but that's what I meant by it being part of the Toolbox. To visualise it as an entity is something else though, and I know that you're not really supposed to do that, especially when it was 'invented' to be useful in the first place.
Perhaps with more experience and perseverance, I might have reached an understanding like yours. I do find myself regretting for giving up on engineering so soon, but hey, I can still take my time to understand what I couldn't before. Thanks for the links :)
Developing an intuition about what rotation a particular complex number will give you is more complex, admittedly. But this is enough to visualize the effects, if not precisely mentally predict the result.
In hindsight, I think that I approached it wrong, and it was far too simplistic anyway. I've been reading popular maths books lately and it's made me realise that there are more ways than just visualisation to understand something. Ironically (a happy one!) this is making me excited about maths for the first time in my life.
In electrical engineering, imaginary/complex numbers are critical in circuit analysis once you move into the AC domain. You can try doing it with sines and cosines, but that's infeasible as soon as you move beyond anything basic. [1] But when you transform them into complex numbers using Euler's formula (one of the most beautiful things in maths, IMHO, especially Euler's identity) [2], it becomes "easy".
Then there's also the Fourier Transform [3] which transforms time-domain signals to frequency-domain.
So my visualisation of imaginary numbers is something involving circles and spirals being twisted and shifted all over the place. Hard to explain, but I've reached the point where I feel I have a good grasp on them. :)
[1] http://hyperphysics.phy-astr.gsu.edu/hbase/electric/impcom.h... [2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Euler%27s_formula [3] https://betterexplained.com/articles/an-interactive-guide-to...