Can you break it down for us?

I pay over $4k/month for a 3 bedroom house.

Private school is what? 8-10k/year per kid? So $32-$40k/year?

Sounds about right. I mean, I don't want to get too detailed, but our take home after taxes, 401k/retirement, etc. covers the two expenses you mentioned and leaves plenty left over for other living expenses and debt service.

Ahh dual income each on 100k+?

No, I contribute much more than 50% of our household income. But it is a dual income, and much less than the person I was responding to thinks he'd have to have to live here with a _mostly_ equivalent lifestyle. The biggest hit would be housing. There's no getting around it: either you're rich, or you rent. A home one could buy almost anywhere else for $250k-$300k would cost $1M and up in this area, depending on where it is. My salary didn't increase by a factor of 5, but the cost to purchase housing did. Even so we live comfortably enough, and certainly not in a little 900 sq ft shoebox of an apartment.

Yeah it doesn't make sense I guess 160k takehone is 250k salary maybe

let me shed some tears while you see the need to factor in private school.

Please don't troll.

I was asking how the parent commenter could afford private school and still save a significant amount.

By the way most people on a visa have to pay for private school (as it should be - but my point is it's often not a luxury).