I don't know what you're talking about. I said nothing about religion, and this whole paragraph is all over the map. I doubt that very many couplings, including obviously bad ones, result in desperation nearing that of "a homeless junkie" as a virtue of themselves.
>The idea of arranged marriages is abhorrent, very close to slavery in denying individual worth and choice.
I disagree. Please note I said the arrangement should not be compulsory. We have many social obligations that are enforced culturally (at this point, marriage itself could almost be considered among these); such customs can be flaunted at will, but there is social pressure not to do so.
Progenitors are strongly motivated to make good choices on behalf of their offspring because their offspring's interest is simultaneously their own self-interest. Parents and grandparents are much more experienced than your average 20-something and generally much better equipped to make reasonable choices in mate selection, themselves typically having had some experience in the matter.
>How to find your ideal mate for lots of men? She'll have me!
I agree, and how does this not support what I'm saying?
The idea of arranged marriages is abhorrent, very close to slavery in denying individual worth and choice.
But ideally there should be some flexibility and commitment, particularly if children are involved, yes.
How to find your ideal mate for lots of men? She'll have me!