Re:How to Pick Your Life Partner (2014)
by gehwartzen on Monday August 07, 2017 @06:52PM
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Exactly. I love my sister, mother, a few of my best male friends, and my wife. Love doesn't equate wanting to have sex with someone. Most humans happen to enjoy sex so given the proposition of commiting to a single person sexual attraction (hence visual attraction) becomes an important factor.
> We fall in love with the person that brings happiness and joy to our life by merely spending time together.
If you need to spend time with someone in order to have happiness and joy in your life, you have a problem to solve before you even think about love and dating.
Many people do have a need to be loved, you can't argue it away.
Most people have plenty of issues growing up, like low self-esteem, need for validation, etc. A combination of training, therapy, meditation, sense-of-purpose, etc can work wonders.
One such issue is nihilism, the kind you're showing here. Growing out of it often makes people happier, unlike growing out of love.
How about you worry about yourself and stop diagnosing people that choose to be with another person?
Re:How to Pick Your Life Partner (2014)
by upvotinglurker on Tuesday August 08, 2017 @09:52AM
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No one said anything about "needing." A person can have happiness and joy in their life while single, yet find another person who adds even more happiness and joy.
Most people pursue partners based on sexual urges, sure. But falling in love is a whole other game, and they don't go hand in hand.