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Re:How to Pick Your Life Partner (2014) by RangerScience on Monday August 07, 2017 @05:53PM (#14951579)
I appreciate you sharing, but you need to realize that your own, internal experience is guaranteed to be unique to you. This is why studies have to be done; otherwise, we all go off our non-generalizable* personal experiences.

* I mean, some part of it is generalizable, but which parts and how?

> beauty is in the eye of the beholder

I have (and am actually currently) feeling my brain changing its opinions on human aesthetics and forms. This is far from the first time. It is actually a distinct feeling that I quite enjoy, and it's very different from the "acquired taste" feeling from, say, whiskeys.

In other words, although I have no idea how many people share this experience, I have a direct, personal experience of beauty being in the eye of the beholder.

Re:How to Pick Your Life Partner (2014) by sobani on Wednesday August 09, 2017 @08:20AM (#14967821)
I have also noticed this. When I was younger, I had 0-1 crushes at any time. But today I find beauty in a lot of different people.

Maybe it's maturity, maybe it's the 'clock' in my male brain urging me to find someone, anyone, but like you I do enjoy this change.

Maybe one day when I've fully progressed from the binary rating of beauty to the continuous rating I will continue on to the unary rating: everyone is equally beautiful in their own way.

Re:How to Pick Your Life Partner (2014) by RangerScience on Wednesday August 09, 2017 @03:17PM (#14972622)
> 0-1 crushes at any time

It's only this year or so that I've got 1+ (1-3, I think) proper crushes at the same time. Part of it is the "unbundling of intimacy" - if I like you one way, I don't need to like you ALL of the other ways, or be bothered that I might like someone else in more ways / more strongly.